Hello all you fabulous people! I want to say I am terribly sorry for not posting very much (ok well at all) for like a month now. You know how sometimes your life just consumes you and you feel like you are being pulled in 39.7 million different directions... well that has been me recently. I just have been in a very internalized mode and really focusing on myself. Sometimes I feel it is important to withdraw oneself from society for a moment to just refocus and center everything. We all get so caught up in the moment of our own selfish desires it is good to just step back and really focus on the priorities in our own lives. For me my priorities are my family, exploring love and my future with the person who makes me feel most like myself, my health and encouraging those around me in positive ways. Now most people reading this are like wtf... captain potty mouth bitch thinks she is Dr. fuckin Phil... well bitches I am as close as it gets... but my tits are bigger and my hair is much fuller LOL Seriously though... how often do we get a chance to reflect on exactly how we touch people's lives, how we make ourselves feel and what we can do to either change the results or move forward full steam ahead. I know this is hard for everyone in this economy... but the beauty of this situation is what does not kill us does truly make is stronger. We find as people that the less money we spend on items... the more we reach out to other people to interact and entertain us... It is how people in the olden days did it with no tv's... cell phone... etc. The world is just putting all it's inhabitants in check... we have become spoiled and bratty... if something isn't how we like it we just throw money at the problem or throw and tantrum and it is fixed. Now people are doing things for themselves again... finding inner strength and confidence that we have not had for a long while. Times like these really show us as people what we are made of. For me it has been a hard look in the mirror the last few years. I grew up quite comfortable... my family always made sure I had the best of everything and made sure the right tools were available for me to succeed. When I was 18/19 I had grown into the mindset that I was to be given everything... I 'deserved' it. For that it was really hard to look at myself and be proud of what I saw in the mirror. It is never hard to face what we are or were in life. I am truly blessed to have the family I do... even when I was ugly to them they kept being supportive and pushing me to make good decisions. Now most of you who have known me a long time realize I have not always made good decisions, but I was never a troublemaker... I just liked to push the boundaries a bit :-) The guilt I have felt for my behavior and attitude for those years is indescribable and unexcused. The only good thing I can say is I learned from my past and have now become the 'well adjusted' person I am today. To anyone that feels like that were never given a fair chance in life or never had it good... take a look in the mirror.. just because you were not handed something does not mean you are not capable of making something of yourself or being positive in life. Every person has the same chance of succeeding in life... it is what you do with that chance that matters... and if you screw up you are only human... take that second chance if it comes around and never look back.
Sometimes looking in the mirror and realizing the truth is the only way to move on and focus on what is here and now.
Monday, March 29, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
Role Model...
When we think today of whom a role model should be what comes to mind…. Is it a celebrity or a family member… a coach… who is someone that influences your life in a positive way? The reason I ask is because recently we have seen a ton of celebrities falling off the wagon so to speak and not living up to an even sub-human status… cheating on wives, murder… drug assuage, etc etc… why do we hold celebrities up so high on pedestals for them to fall off? Why don’t more people focus on looking up to someone that is more tangible to them… someone that will actually be there for them as a role model and not someone that has just become famous by some random talent or sheer dumb luck. I guess I have always been lucky enough to have positive influences in my life from my family, friends and people that have touched me in different places of my life. I like knowing I have people in my life that help me stay focused… push me to always be the best I can be. Maybe the problem with celebrities being made to be role models is that they do not want people to look up to them. The thing is sometimes we cannot choose who looks up to us or what actions the will do. A lot of young people tend to follow celebrities and mimic things that they do to match those of their idol. Obviously we shouldn’t hold celebrities accountable for things people do because they want to be like them, but the celebrity needs to realize when they choose the job they do… they are automatically thrust into the spotlight and their lives are lived under a microscope to the world. The thing about this is that most celebrities end up living double lives… take Tiger Woods for example… yeah I am going to pick on Tiger… he has been leading a double life for several years now. At least he has stepped up to the plate and admitted what he has done. The thing is he is someone that had been a trailblazer for not only the sport of golf, but for African American sports figures in general. He has conned all of America into thinking he is an amazing person. The other side of the coin could be said that Tiger started this abnormal behavior after his father’s death. Look at the time line… he was absolutely perfect at everything he did for years… over a decade in the spotlight and no tarnish on his image. Then we see him unravel in front of everyone… a man broken only by jealousy of his lover’s. I mean seriously LOL When I was 18 I dated 2 guys at the same time and it was exhausting! How the hell did he have time for 5 or 6 or 7… for almost 4 years and having a wife and kids and being the leading golfer of all time? Sometimes I think we all need to realize that celebrities are just like us… human for the most part and also held at a higher standard because they are in the spotlight. I guess in a way it is a double standard for us to make celebrities into something they do not want to be and also when many of us are or have done the things they are doing… our lives are not blast all over the internet or tv either. If we shit the wrong way or go drinking one night in Vegas it doesn’t end up on TMZ the next day. Being a celebrity can open up a lot of doors, but it also closes the right for you to be a normal person and do normal things. The thing is if you do not choose to be a role model whether you are famous or not, you need to realize as a human other humans are always seeking for something to believe in or look up to. This is why we should all try to be the best version of ourselves in life and not sweat the small stuff
I have been told many times that I am a good role model or I should watch the things I do because there are several people that are looking up to me. This is not a role I have chosen, but it is something to consider when doing daily things in life. I live my life honestly and focus on being the best version of myself on a daily basis. The thing is being myself also tends to be what some people would say is not a good a role model. I am me… loud both in spirit and being, silly, goofy, intelligent, witty, sarcastic, not a fashion model size, too tall, obnoxious, cuss like a sailor that married a logger and passionate about all I am. Just because someone is not the ideal vision of what a role model is, does that mean they are any less of a role model or that they are not a good person? I am gonna go with a no… I think someone like me that is successful and motivated can motivate other young people to be successful and embrace everything that they are in life. I think one of the biggest issues in our society these days is people trying to be something they are not because others around them are not accepting them for who they truly are. When I was in high school I always imagined being accepted by my peers, but let’s face it… the tall/fat/brainiac kid is not the first on the acceptance list. The thing I have found through the years is that the people that were the accepted crowd were the ones that were actually pretending to be something they are not and making everyone else buy into it. I have talked to a few people that were mean to me… some of them owned up to being insecure and were truly sorry whereas a few were still very much the same person. It actually makes me sad to think how empty of a life that must be still pretending to be something you are not to put on a show. Is that something celebrities do as well? Are they all just outing on a show and making everyone else buy into it. I love Lindsey Lohan, but the poor thing seems to always be into trouble… is this an act or truly a person crying out for help coming from a broken home? I guess we just need to remember we are all human and we all need a little love and a little help from time to time. Shit happens to even the best of us… that is just how life is. If there were never any challenges for us to overcome…how would we overcome anything and grow as individuals?
I guess what I am saying is we are all just people trying to do the best we can in life... when you are sad and think you are worthless... just remember that you may have someone watching you... looking up to you that motivates them or keeps them from doing something stupid. We are all connected in life and need to remember that in our daily actions. We all have bad days and sometimes we all just need a hug... remember that next time you see someone down that may need lifted up.
I have been told many times that I am a good role model or I should watch the things I do because there are several people that are looking up to me. This is not a role I have chosen, but it is something to consider when doing daily things in life. I live my life honestly and focus on being the best version of myself on a daily basis. The thing is being myself also tends to be what some people would say is not a good a role model. I am me… loud both in spirit and being, silly, goofy, intelligent, witty, sarcastic, not a fashion model size, too tall, obnoxious, cuss like a sailor that married a logger and passionate about all I am. Just because someone is not the ideal vision of what a role model is, does that mean they are any less of a role model or that they are not a good person? I am gonna go with a no… I think someone like me that is successful and motivated can motivate other young people to be successful and embrace everything that they are in life. I think one of the biggest issues in our society these days is people trying to be something they are not because others around them are not accepting them for who they truly are. When I was in high school I always imagined being accepted by my peers, but let’s face it… the tall/fat/brainiac kid is not the first on the acceptance list. The thing I have found through the years is that the people that were the accepted crowd were the ones that were actually pretending to be something they are not and making everyone else buy into it. I have talked to a few people that were mean to me… some of them owned up to being insecure and were truly sorry whereas a few were still very much the same person. It actually makes me sad to think how empty of a life that must be still pretending to be something you are not to put on a show. Is that something celebrities do as well? Are they all just outing on a show and making everyone else buy into it. I love Lindsey Lohan, but the poor thing seems to always be into trouble… is this an act or truly a person crying out for help coming from a broken home? I guess we just need to remember we are all human and we all need a little love and a little help from time to time. Shit happens to even the best of us… that is just how life is. If there were never any challenges for us to overcome…how would we overcome anything and grow as individuals?
I guess what I am saying is we are all just people trying to do the best we can in life... when you are sad and think you are worthless... just remember that you may have someone watching you... looking up to you that motivates them or keeps them from doing something stupid. We are all connected in life and need to remember that in our daily actions. We all have bad days and sometimes we all just need a hug... remember that next time you see someone down that may need lifted up.
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